Wednesday, December 30, 2009

A New Year

2010 has got to be a better year than 2009. I'd rather not live through another year like the one I've just gone through. I've heard about women who have battled cancer for YEARS! Not just one year like I have, but more than one - you know, like two years! Or more!

There is one woman whose blog I follow - she's going to be receiving chemo treatments for the rest of her life. It's hard for me to wrap my mind around that. How do you wake up in the morning knowing there is no end to having poison pumped into your body? I can tell you how: you just do. She's been called "amazing" and "strong" and "an inspiration," but like me what she really is is a mom. There are days you wake up and think: That's it! I don't think I can do this anymore! But you remember all the people who love you and you love back. And you try very hard not to imagine a world in which your children grow up without a mother...but sometimes you do think about it and it makes you stronger; it gets you out of bed. Your determination grows and you know you're going to kick some cancer butt (for me that lasts about 15 minutes then I start whining again.)

It's funny what chemo will do to your brain. When I say funny, I don't mean "ha ha" funny either. I mean funny in a sense of "give me a second, I'm having a hard time even remembering my name right now". Today I heard my children having this conversation:

Jacob: Do you remember the day we had to dress up at school as the person we wanted to be when we grew up?
Allison: Yeah, I dressed up as a teacher. I wore boots, a turtleneck shirt and blue jeans.
Jacob: That's how teachers dress?
Allison: Yes! Duh!

I didn't say anything even though I was thinking: That's how teachers dress? But mostly I was thinking how I had absolutely no memory of this dress-up day for them. I was hoping my daughter would ask my son what he dressed up as - I was too ashamed to tell them I didn't remember this day. And then I thought back on all the special moments I should have remembered this past year: my son's birthday in April; my daughter's birthday in July; valentine's day; Easter; MY birthday... all of it is blank. All of it! I'm sure Tom or my dad or maybe even I took pictures. I'm going to go find those pictures and stare in amazement that I was part of those days.

If I was.

I don't really know.

The point is: cancer stripped a year of my life as a mother from me. I was too sick to help out in the raising of my children, and the things that I might have actually done, I don't remember. This was one year for me. One. The number one doesn't sound like much, but when it comes to the life of my sweet children - being robbed of one is painful. I pray my nightmare journey with cancer is over - if it is not, I will do this coming year exactly what I did last year...survive anyway I have to. I'm a mom - it's what we do.


  1. I hope all the good memories come back and you forget all the bad. Here's to a wonderful 2010!

  2. I hope that 2010 is full of wonderful days that you'll never forget.

  3. You have my utmost respect. I had my mammogram on Wednesday, had the experience of the ultrasound and a 'spot' that needs a biopsy was found, been here before but it's maddening and and all you can do is pray and are a very strong brave very loved woman....I pray you are truly blessed this coming year! xo

  4. I'm happy to see you back. I used to check your other blog every once in a while but I hadn't checked this one for a long time. Just keep hanging in there sounds like you've been through a lot. Here's hoping 2010 is tons better for you.

  5. I hope this year is a good one with lots of chances to make memories with your children!

  6. know what you have to cause much pain, but also know that you can overcome, and for that to happen you will need all ... So when you want even if it is talk, you can count on me, why we are in the world to help each other ...
    I fought with my father against the cancer he had, and I know that the support and friendship is essential ...